You’d think I’d learn, particularly since the lesson has pounded me on the head repeatedly. There’s even a “law” that covers it. The basic premise of the law of attraction is that what you focus on materializes in your life, though perhaps in a different form than you anticipated.
I’ve been contemplating what part the “law” plays in my own life. So many of my “I will never” statements have become the experiences I look back on with surprise.
I’ve become nervous about nevers. Here are five reasons.
1. I will never marry
My mother was a gem of a woman, but she ended up parenting two children on her own. If it could happen to her, it could happen to anyone.
Not me, I vowed. Never.
That was two marriages ago. After the second, I swore I would never enter another relationship, even though both marriages were to men I’m happy to have had in my life.
Last month my new partner and I celebrated four happy years together.
2. I will never live in the country
When I was a child, visiting friends’ farms was fun. I loved playing in the hay, exploring the fields, even helping prepare fruits and vegetables for canning. But live on a farm? Never.
Then I married someone who yearned for a small acreage and then a larger, more remote property. I dragged my feet, but I went and I thrived.
Now I live in an urban high rise, but sometimes I wax poetic about quiet beauty, wildlife neighbours, and domestic animals, which leads me to…
3. I will never be tied down by animals
The thin edge of the wedge was a pup. It was a wedding gift from my stepson. He figured a small farm needed sheep, and sheep needed a dog. He bought us a border collie pup.
That first crack in my “never” was followed by chickens, turkeys, pigs, ducks, geese, horses, mules, cows, more dogs, and cats.
When two camels came into my life, I knew it was time to head back to the city, but I miss living with animals.
4. I will never travel to Australia
When I graduated from high school, Australia still had two pay scales, one for men and one for women. I crossed the country off my travel list, permanently.
Then I met this lovely man from Australia. Though he has lived in Canada forty years, he always gets a tear in his eye when he hears the song, “I still call Australia home.”
So in late 2008 we headed for Australia to spend time with his twin brother in Adelaide and his children and their families in Melbourne. He told me Aussies were extraordinarily friendly. He was right.
Oh, and did I mention I swore I would never cruise? Cooped up on a ship with all those boring, spoiled people, and likely seasick the whole time? Never.
We cruised to Australia and back, and I thoroughly enjoyed it.
5. I will never blog
When I first heard about blogging, I thought it was one of the silliest, most narcissistic occupations anyone could undertake. Sitting around scribbling nonsense and actually hoping someone would read it? Ridiculous!
Now I have three. The first, Crossroads, was a way to record our eight-month sojourn to Australia. People actually read it. I was hooked.
Nervous about nevers
Recently I caught myself saying “never” again. I can’t even remember why, but I do remember a sudden shiver down my spine.
I wish I could remember what it was because I’m pretty sure it’s going to happen.